Gone but not Forgotten

This week has been a sad one for we've said goodbye to a well loved companion and pet (gold fish). Anyone who has had a pet in their lives knows just how much they take up of your heart and living such a long time they become part of your routine as you feed, clean and talk to them about your stresses in everyday life. Yes they may not understand and cannot answer back but they seem to listen and be on your side right?.

I actually won our fish at a fair that I attended at a race course during University alongside another and later they were joined by a fish from the local pet shop. Over time their companions passed away from white spot and a lump on the side. We decided against introducing any more fish knowing that it can be tricky to do so for a long time he/she lived alone.

When my husband arrived in my life he soon got to know our fish and became entrusted with feeding and cleaning duties. I dropped the first tank they had accidentally such a butter fingers I am. The girls have also loved seeing the fish. Baby used to get very excited as she bounced up and down in excitement and my eldest had started to help feed them. She is still asking to feed them now but on Monday morning we woke to find they'd passed away.

How do you tell a 2 1/2 year old what's happened? We've said he's gone to sleep but seeing the empty tank she's confused and I'm hurting. I felt sick to my stomach and tried to hide tears from them earlier in the week.

My mum says "you'll get over them" but I don't think you can ever get over a loved one be it person or pet. I've had two golden retrievers, rabbits, several chickens, fish and hamsters as well as people come and go from my life and for me it is never easy saying goodbye. You merely have to reflect on what treasured times you had together and think you were blessed to be part of their lives.

So this world grew a little darker this week as our friend is gone and can't be replaced.

Eco GitesThe Reading Residence


  1. I'm sorry for your loss. Your fish must have been with you some time. I had no idea fish lasted so long. A testament to your care, I'm sure. You can never replace, but I hope you will be able to add another pet to your home at some point. #wotw

  2. Aww! So sorry to hear about your loss.
    I remember as a child I had plenty of goldfish over the years from pet shops and they never lasted long but we got one from the fair and it lasted about 8 years.
    Sending love and hugs x

  3. Sorry you've had a difficult week. It is so difficult losing pets as they are very much part of the family x Thanks for sharing with #WotW

  4. My heart goes out to you and your family, Helena. It doesn't matter what type of pet we lose, a loss is a loss. Your little fish may not have been able to communicate with you, but caring for your fish was a big part of yours and your family's life. I'm sure your little ones will be wondering where it has gone for a while to come.


  5. awww,so,sorry. It's never easy losing a pet and so hard to explain to a small child xx

  6. So sorry to hear about your goldfish, losing a pet of any kind is never easy and it isn't easy for a young child to understand.


  7. Oh I am so sorry to read this. I too have said goodbye to a pet this week and it has had me sadder than I thought possible. Our pets really do get into our hearts don't they?

    Apologies for taking so long to visit your post after you added it to #AnimalTales - summer rather got in the way of blogging! The Sept linky opens in a few hours if you have anything to add.


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