Never Say Never

Putting away the newborn clothes I am led to question whether I’ll ever experience the pitter patter of another child's feet.

Pregnant with the youngest

Sparkles & Stretchmarks author Hayley recently wrote a post called The Maybe Baby where she considered having another baby. For me personally I’d love to have three children. My husband and I both know what it is like to grow up with two other siblings and thus there’s a temptation there to have three ourselves.  

However, regular readers of my blog will know that I have Type 2 Diabetes and both my pregnancies have resulted in my daughters being born at 36 and 37 weeks because of this. Both times my kidneys suffered a battering from sky high Creatinine levels which is very dangerous.

So I've been left questioning whether that’s it for me or do I risk having a third one? Some days I wonder whether I should have started my family in my 20s. However, it wasn't until I reached my 30s that I met the right man and settled down.  I know I wouldn't be happy had I had children in my past relationships for sure.  
Seeing and reading about others who are currently pregnant relights that frustration of not knowing what the future will bring. Is it worth the risk or should I just be content that I have two lovely little girls and a handsome hubby that all mean the world to me.


As a hospital nurse said to me ‘never say never’.... 

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  1. It sounds to me as if you really would like to go for a third baby. Assess the risks and go with your gut feeling, with no regrets. Good luck with your choice. Alison x #mg

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  2. Good on you hun - you're absolutely right. Who knows what the future holds xx #candidcuddles

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  3. Oh gosh it must be hard to try and reach that decision, if it's even possible to! I can't have children but I'm sure I would find it a struggle if I was blessed in that way. For us it's "shall we get another pet?" :) X #mg

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    1. Exactly I don't have all the medical knowledge so just don't know. I'm sorry to hear that you can't have children. Which pet would you look to get?

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  4. Sounds like a hard decision. We always wanted 5 or 6 (crazy I know) but over 9 years of trying and lots of miscarriages we only have the two. I had to have a csection with the first and with my second my scar started to rupture (luckily I was already on the operating table), and as this happened even with a 5 year gap between them I have been advised not to have any more. In a way it was a relief to have the decision made for me because I know if it hadn't been I would be having the same dilemma as you. At the end of the day you have to go with your gut instinct. Best of luck with your decision x
    #MarvMondays

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    1. I'm so sorry to read about your experiences. It must have been very upsetting for you. It sounds like you were in the right place at the time of your rupturing scar!

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  5. I think you have to follow your gut, and never say never! It does sound to me like you don't feel like your family is finished yet. x #CandidCuddles

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  6. It's such a difficult thing to decide, I faced the same question before having Jake after having gestational diabetes with Daisy it was highly likely it would return which it did but I knew strongly that I wanted another so I went for it, sadly having gestational twice along with poor health choices has led to me developing type 2 which I'm still trying to get my head around. Only you know what is the right decision for you and your health but I know it't tough x

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    1. I will never know whether I had gestational or not first time round. I know what you mean about trying to get your head around having type 2.

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  7. I had pre-eclampsia with my first, problems with my second- bedrest for both and my uterus started SHREDDING at my second c-section. Don't do it again the doctors warmed. Fast forward a few years later... IDENTICAL TWINS. They made it to an unbelievable 36 weeks and could not be more perfect. Never say never ;)
    #dreamteam

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    1. Gosh Kristin you went through a lot. Thanks for sharing.

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  8. It's such a difficult decision isnt it? I always thought I'd have another but I think we're done with the 2. :) #tuesdaytreasures

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  9. I only have one and just know that due to an awful pregnancy resulting in my daughter being born 8 weeks early and the general struggles of motherhood, I could never have another one. Don't dwell on the 'I should of done this or that' because it's far better to wait until you meet the right person to have children with and you happened to meet him a tiny bit later on 🙂 (You probably don't need me telling you that haha) #candidcuddles

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    1. Thank you for the advice and for sharing your experience with me.

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  10. Awww!!! I know exactly how you feel, I didn't plan to have 8 years between my girls but Mother Nature obviously had other plans for us. When we got married, I was 19, in the first flushes of youth we planned to have at least four children but some things are just not to be, how mother nature must have laughed. As it turned out, I am so grateful that we eventually has two.I am sure you will make the right choice for you and your lovely family xx #candidcuddles

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  11. Having more children is a big decision & definitely not an easy one to make! I think you have to go with your gut. Definitely never say never! Thanks so much for sharing your quote with #candidcuddles x

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    1. So true. You're welcome. It's great to see the linky back.

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  12. I was lucky to have two fairly straightforward pregnancies and I do wonder about a third child. It's such a huge decision and I suppose for most there's lots of reasons not to do it but health is obviously a biggie! Thanks for linking up to #MarvMondays. Kaye xo

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    1. Thanks Kaye. Yes health is very important.

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  13. Oh gosh this reminds me (not that I've ever forgotten!) how badly I wanted a third child to the point where I actually became obsessed/depressed over it which is an awful thing to say when so many women can't even have children. I don't envy you because it's such a tough decision with the medical issue so I wish you the best. Thanks for linking up to #candidcuddles

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    1. It's so true we are fortunate to be able to have babies. It must be so crushing to find you can't.

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  14. Oh it's such a tough decision - I suppose as others have said, you have to weigh up the risks with what your heart is telling you too. I was so lucky in my pregnancy and really feel for you. Thanks for linking up to #dreamteam Hope to see you again next week x

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    1. You are right. Weighing up the risks and what my heart says is very wise and important.

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  15. I totally understand what you mean here honey. It is hard when we have a dream of how many babies we would love and then being torn because of health issues and finance and many other reasons. I am so blessed to have 3 I know that, and after many miscarriages and battles to carry to term I am so grateful. Like you I also had diabetes and then with my third I developed a heart issue that put both him and I in grave danger, so believe me I know I am lucky, but I still long for another abby I know I always will. That feeling won't go away even if mentally I know I can't do it again. It sucks and it makes me so sad and frustrated, sometimes I have even been so angry with my body!! But I have amazing children and I am alive to raise them. Take care honey and whatever you decide I wish you always great happiness xx

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    1. I'm sorry to learn of your experiences Mackenzie. Awww your body has birthed three amazing children don't be too hard on yourself. Thank you.

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    2. thank you lovely, popping back over from #sundaybest too xx

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  16. Hard decision but like everyone else has said I suppose you have to look at the risk another pregnancy carries and what's best for you and your family. Good luck in deciding x #MarvMondays

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  17. Well,that's a tricky situation especially when your health is at risk,. I would advice you talk to your gynae and of course your family. Because it's going to affect the them and what your gut tell you. All the best Helena and keep us posted on whatever decision you make. #SundayBest

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    1. Thank you Angie that sounds like wise advice to me.

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  18. Personally I would go for it, as long as the risks aren't overwhelming and life threatening of course. I agree with speaking with your family and deciding accordingly from there :) good luck with whatever you decide! #SundayBest

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  19. Ultimately,it's your body and if the joy of another child out ways the risks then go for it. My husband and I stopped at two (the second was a surprise) because of complications. We originally wanted 5! 😊

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    1. Oh my 5 is a lot. Sorry to read that you had complications.

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  20. I always wanted 3 but we nearly stopped at 2. But here I am expecting my third! Thanks for linking up to #SundayBest x

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